In the middle of the political flurry of the week, an interesting story flew under the radar. Breaking News: A woman said fuck.
One of the things that I know I can do with this site is to let women express themselves honestly and openly. This includes swearing. I swear I do not understand why it is a stretch of our professional pantyhose to imagine a woman who can swear and sort out her life with grace and glory (and even a Ph.D.). But profanity is associated with anger, and angry women have never been looked upon favorably by Western civilization. Stigma serves men in this way. Swearing women are less than, lack purity. These impure, possibly less-educated women never got the memo on how to behave appropriately. The words that come out of their mouths are representative of their moral character.
But we are encouraged to wear next to nothing and talk dirty to the whatever in our lives in order to secure company.
I swear we are not hysterical. We are alive. Using language to express ourselves is a part of the full spectrum of the human condition and not a warning sign that we are dangerous, derelict, or in need of education. What is dangerous, however, is society’s tacit yet relentlessly smug group-on-construct that women are not allowed to be angry, or swear, without social repercussions in the form of the time-out that is a stereotype. Stereotypes that not only hurt our spirit but actually have the power to hinder our ability to care for our children. The stereotypes of angry women as bad mothers is real. Know it. And lurking around in that construct are the rules on words: swearing is not allowed.
Bad mothers don’t swear. Proper women don’t swear. Professional
(enter your job title here) don’t swear. Go to your room, young
lady. Whatever you do….don’t get angry or no one will hire you and
you will never meet a man.
Now, the highest paying jobs for men is arguably professional athletics.
Professional athletes don’t swear or anything. Right? Please.
And, hang on a second, I could be wrong, but I swear what has been told to me by Anderson Cooper, Wolf Blitzer, Don Lemon, Jake Tapper, Bill O’Reilly, Shawn Hannity, Chris Matthews, George Stephanopoulos, Brian Williams, and Chris Todd is that the beheading, raping, serial killing, school shooting, hatchet attacking, shoe bombing, underwear bombing, cop killing, unarmed teenager killing, land stealing, human trafficking, sex slaving, child molesting, bank swindling, environment destroying is being done by men.
Not that men have anger issues or anything. Frackers.
Sometimes some of us swear. But none of us swoon on the fainting couches fancied by Freud. Although they would love it if we did. We are all too busy keeping our children alive while the other half of the sky slaughters the world and gets better press. Fuck that.
Walker is a single mom of two teenagers. She has been known to wear jeans at work.